How to help your teen build confidence
Being confident and having a positive self-image is important for anyone at any age but it’s even more so for teenagers. The teen years are littered with puberty, peer pressure, and near constant change.
The teen years can be a tumultuous time and these years often leave teens feeling bereft and on uneven footing. This bereft feeling can lead to lower feelings of self-worth and confidence.
However, there are some things that you as a parent can do to help your teen build confidence and ward of the self-confidence blues!
Understand their Strengths & Weaknesses
As a parent you should teach your child to be proud of their strengths and abilities.
When someone holds a healthy self-image of themselves that involves knowing what their strengths are as well as being aware of weaknesses.
Part of being able to teach your child to be proud of their abilities is being able to pick out what your teen’s strengths and weaknesses are. As a parent you have seen your child grow up, grow into and out of phases, and you have helped them navigate the highlights and lowlights of their lives. Because of this you as a parent have inside knowledge into what they do well—maybe they excel at a certain sport—but you also understand where they need reinforcements—for example, maybe they have trouble in biology.
Use this knowledge to help your teen find ways to celebrate their strengths.
Set them up for Success
You can also help your teen build confidence by setting them up for success.
In essence, you want to nurture your teenager’s passions and strengths by encouraging them to keep engaging with these activities by joining clubs, finding mentors etc. For example, if your child has a passion for playing the drums encourage them to join the school band, pay for lessons, or even simply offer to allow them to play a song for you.
By helping your teen find ways to engage with their passions you are helping them take a vested interest in their passions and helping them find ways to celebrate their gifts which leads to positive self-image and greater confidence in their abilities.
Give them more Responsibility
One way that you can show that you have confidence in your teen is by giving and allowing them to have more responsibility. When you allow your teen more freedom and the opportunity to shoulder more responsibility you are telling them that you trust and have confidence in them.
As a teenager knowing that your parent thinks you can handle something can be a catalyst for teens to then believe that they can do something.
Some ways to give your teen more responsibility include:
- Give them more chores around the house
- Allow them to find a part time job
- Give them the opportunity to volunteer
- Allow them to have a later curfew
Other tips on how you can help your teen build confidence include:
- Turn a negative into a positive
- Compliment them
- Be a good role model
- Seek professional help if a teen’s confidence erodes quickly
Mothers play an important part in the building of confidence. As this article points out they also play a huge role in shaping their daughter’s confidence.
This article explains why having confidence in the teen years is so important!